Wednesday, May 4, 2011

My Husband Is Leaving Me

The other day I called off work because I had an erie feeling about something and just could not pinpoint what it could possibly be. I sat in the family room after making myself a small breakfast and the doorbell rings. I answered and there was a gentlemen asking if I was so and so. I replied back yes and he handed me over some papers and stated, "you are being served". Shocked! Yes I was. I was unsure of what it could possibly be for. I hesitated on opening the letter. I thought maybe it's a supenae from a case I worked on in the past. But how could they have my home address.

After about five minutes I finally opened the envelope and damn I could not believe my eyes. It was a divorce summons from our attorney. I just didn't understand why my husband would want to divorce me. He was just lying in bed with me approximately two hours ago. Last night we made love. We recently stop using contraceptives to started planning our family. What could have happened to cause this I asked myself. I guess this is why I had that Erie feeling when I woke up.

After a hour of being in shock. I contacted my husband at his place of work. I started the conversation off nicely and then instantly explained to him what had happened. He told me he didn't know how to tell me. I was trying to keep my cool while he spoke, but I couldn't.

I asked a lot of questions. What did I do wrong? Was it another woman? Was I not the a great mother figure to his daughter? His reply was no none of these are issues. So what could it be? He told me it was something I said a few weeks back about his mother. I was like what, what are you talking about? He said I called his mother a whore and because of that he doesn't want to have anything to do with me.

Really this bastard is putting what I said about his mother over seven years of marriage. To be perfectly honest his mother and I have never gotten along. She's really fake. She tells me one thing when I'm by myself and another when my husband is around.

But to take you back to the conversation we had that is causing him to divorce me. Years ago he told me he doesn't know his father. So a few weeks ago I asked if he can have talk with his mother to see if she can tell him more about their family medical history. We were planning for a children and these are things we need to know. He also need to try and figure out who is his father and how can we find him.

During the conversation he told me there is a possibility that one man his mom used to bring home could be his daddy. He went on about all the different guys she dated and I ask one question. How did you feel seeing various men come in and out your mothers bedroom? He was honest and explained how it hurt him dearly to grow up around that type of environment. I said damn your mom is a promiscuous being. He did take offense to that, but I figured he had gotten over it by the next day. I guess I was wrong.

I want to save my marriage, I am unsure if I can do so. I love my husband, but I don't think our relationship will survive after this. Something I said about another woman, who just so happens to be his mother is about to destroy twelve years of us. All I can do is pray and place this in Gods hand.




Whew okay let's SOUND OFF! ... Ladies how would you react to this crazy situation? Fellas would you have allowed something so small to destroy your marriage? I personally think she will be better off then having to walk on pins and needles to be sure nothing negative is said about his mother.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I feel she should leave his sorry ass.

Anonymous said...

OMG..She needs to jump real fast and get the hell outta there. That chump never wanted the relationship anyways and if his Mom is a Nothin ass Slut, oh well. Jump off a roof will he please...She just don't know..These days mothers are so all up in their sons business I would tell my husbands Mom if she stepped off her square and got all up in our shit this: "Well, you suck his dick then!" Hell, she just might. Anytime you find a man that thinks that his mommy is the head of his life still even after marriage and she's not trying to fix that shit...He's sick and she ain't shit! Run bitch run and don't look back.

Anonymous said...

One thing Sister Grenades, Anytime a mother of the groom is that much into his life they will always make it seem as if they are in it for his best interest because she's lonely as fuck and she can't find a man like her son. She's more than likely not tied down still today because she has her head so far up her sons ass and yea she should be the one to suck his dick if she hasn't already. Motherinlaws are some sick bitches sometimes and they need to get back.

crunknpeachy said...

Something like this happened to me: ...I was talking to this dude and we was hitting it off perfectly(3months) until one day I called his home and his mother picked up the phone...Mind you she has an accent(Spanish) so I understood everything that she was saying but I was laughing at the same time at the dude because he didn’t wash the dishes like he was suppose to....By the end of the night everything was cool...wks, months, went by and everything was still cool. Until one day(2months later) I seen his auntie...and she looked at me and rolled her eyes...confused? yes, I was talking to the dude these are the words I remember in Spanish..."por quĂ© son usted hablando con la perra" MIND YOU I know enough Spanish to understand what she said...the next day I didn’t see him hell I didn’t see HIM for 3days until one day I seen him...I asked him what happened? To shorten what he said basically I was laughing at his mother for the way she was talking in her accent...I explained to him was happened...So I suggested that I would call the mother and tell her what happened?

........

I did about 3wks later, you see, I was in school and working so finally I called her and she wasn’t at home and so I left a message with the husband and explain to him why I was calling the husband understand and give her the message....

.....So the moral the story is a dude don’t like it when they think, feel, or sense you are talking about his mother

....For the better word an open invitation was for his mother did she accepted? NO, did the aunt accepted? NO, and what happened? Dude and I didn’t last long after because he was listening to other ppl instead of us....(2wks later)

Now, if there has been an open invitation and she didn’t accept then that’s her fault not yours and if he feels that bad about it...then he was doing it for show, esp. if u was just having a casual conversation, it wasn’t like u was arguing...he should have understood that u didn’t say slut or whore...You didn’t mean no hurt to what you said.

SOUND OFF GRENADE COUSIN


P.S. THERE SHOULD HAVE BEEN SOME COMMON GROUND on her side.