He Put a Ring On It

Back in October 2008 singer/songwriter Beyonce introduced the world to her hit track Put a Ring on it. Everyone, including men, was grooving to the tune ... If he Liked it, Then he Should Have Put a Ring on it. She gave people the idea that if he wanted the woman to stick around then he should placed a ring her hand. After that we've found so many couples on FB getting either engaged or jumping the broom.

But what happens when that ring isn't all it's cracked up to be?. So he placed the ring on your hand. Later you set a date and the wedding planning begins. He was and still is charming and the most respectful human being you ever met. The big day finally arrives and you guys had the best 7 day honeymoon vacation ever. The entire time you tell yourself it's just too good to be true. He's everything you ever wanted.

The vacation is over and you merge from two separate households into one. Within months that ring begins to become over bearing and much more than you can handle. That ring provider turns out not to be the same man he presented himself prior to nuptials. The ring provider is abusive; physically, mentally, and emotionally. Yes, he is the same man the vowed to never hit or beat on you, nor, mistreat you. He places bruises on you in areas no one will ever see. In the public eye he portrays himself as someone other than the one you lay in bed with at night. So you fear that no one will believe you, not even your children.

Do you stay because you fear for your life? Or do you stay because you have a ring on?

Having a ring doesn't make you a woman, nor does it provide happiness. Real LOVE should never hurt you physically, verbally, mentally, or emotionally.


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