Ladies, we all may have dated or are currently dating a guy who is very close to his mom. So close, you are not sure who jocks his cock the most, you or her. We've been in situations where you are not sure if it is a relationship between only you and him or you, him, and her.
Well I dated this guy a few years back who called his mommy for everything, and I mean E-VE-RY-THING. Whether it was to pay his child support, student loans, HIS home mortgage, what he should have for dinner that evening..., and boy I could go on and on. He would even called to tell her about things I was doing, rather good or bad. I knew I had to get myself out of the situation when his mommy dearest would call and ask me how come I did not make her son's breakfast before he went to work? Or the time when she invited me over to help her cook Thanksgiving dinner. The witch had the nerve to ask me before even speaking to ask me "why I did not have any children? Because it was good for me to know that his daughter was her favorite and they (her and her husband) do not need anymore grandchildren." First thing that came to my mind was this witch has lost her mind. Do I cuss her out? Do I leave and let the matter be handled by her son? Well I decide to handle it on my own and my reply was "because I have yet to find a man that was good enough to father my children, that's why. Just so you know I still have yet to FIND HIM. Now do you have anymore questions?" Let's just say that that was the end of that conversation.
After all that I still gave him another chance, until one day I received a text from an ex and he just so happened to run across it in my phone...lol. Do you know he called his momma and told on me like I wasn't sitting there. Yes, he called his mom at four o'clock in the morning. That was a signal for me to pack my shit and go.
I have always been the type to give men a chance. Even when I know they are the only child or son. I try my best to keep my biases' out my new situations. The last few dating experiences have been troubling because the men tend to run to their mommies for unauthorized advice. Then later when shit begins to hit the fan you find yourself debating with a woman that is all to familiar with the problems that goes on in your relationship or maybe even in your home.
I never had a man to verbally admit that his mother was/ is his personal diary, but I have heard a few state she is his everything. When a man tell you that, Ladies, run like a dog is chasing you. Do not setup yourself up for a heart break. Men will show you early in the relationship what to expect when it comes to his mother. Take heed of and determine if that is something you are willing to live with.
Here are a few ways to keep that Diary out your relationship:
- Mutually agree with you guy/ husband in the beginning...anything that happens in your home and/or relationship stays between the two of you.
- Talk to your man, let him know how you feel about information being taken outside of the 'US' foundation.
- Have him to inform his mother of her place in life. This is when he MUST stand up to her. She may not like, but that is her problem.
- When she retires or gets old complaining that she wants her son to care for put her in a nursing home that will really keep her out of your business...Just Kidding, but if all else fail this is an option.
- Sound Off...What do you think?
3 comments:
I broke up with my 1st love/highschool sweatheart ...etc not because he cheated(because he did), not because he sold and used drugs (because he did) and not even because he drank heavily (yep he did that to). It was after all that and 4 plus years together we were involved in a conversation where he so easily stated "I will NEVER leave my Mother!!!" ... and the fairytale ended right there!! I dare you to ask me who he lives with still to this day....It's a road to nowhere...KNOW THAT!!
LMAO hillarious! Def. A good one......I dated this guy who was a complete mama's boy I used to loved the way he smelled and dressed until the day I found out that his overgrown 26 yr. Old self was having his clothes laid out by his mama! UGH complete turn off. Another set off which ended up being the deal breaker happened when we were spending time together and his mama called from 29 miles away asking him to come home to take the garbage out!!!! Off he went like the lil spineless mama boy he was same day I let him walk right on out my life! NEVER AGAIN.
Well ladies unfortunately I wasn't as lucky as you all were. I married my man & his diary(worst thing that could've happened). I would always joke about him being a moma's boy & @ first I though it was cute because I thought he would treat me like a queen(LOL) that was a joke. When we first got together everything was cool...his diary loved me. But as time went on his diary & I grew distant because he was giving me more time & not her. I wanted him to handle the tension that brewed between us but he threw the shit on the back burner because he could never confront his beloved diary she was his best friend. From then on everything that happen good or bad his diary knew about. Cooking, cleaning, going out & if we went through a drought his diary would even ask me why I hadn't had sex with him....OMG. I tried my best to outshine this diary & as time went on we stayed together & finally got married & two months later got pregnant although my child is the best thing that came out of "I DO" I wish I could go back in time. Over the past five years we been through hell & back. He's cheated & the diary has taken up for him. He's put his hands on me & the diary has taken up for him. He not until recently wasn't being a father to our child & his diary has taken up for him saying women are better with children than men. He would get upset & say he's the KING of his castle & when I play my part he would treat me like a QUEEN. Oh wow I didn't know I signed up for a play I didn't know that I was reading scripts....SMH. Finally I got a wake up call, I left his ass with the building & the bills got my shit together & for the past year I've been on my own & HAPPY living life as I want. Now he wants me back(ctfu)& needs to lean on me(supplemental income I think)....he doesn't wanna confide in nobody but me. NOW WHERE IN THE HELL IS THAT DAMN DIARY SHE'S QUIET NOW....BUT GUESS WHAT SWEETIE I'M GOOD!!!!
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