As a little girl (and I mean toddler age), I had the biggest crush on my Auntee's high school sweetheart, Kenny R. It was not a secret and everybody including Auntee knew about it. Every time he came around I would blush and sometimes try to hide. It probably made his year to know a little girl thought he was the finest thing since slice bread.
See then it was cute because I was just a child and at the time I did not fully under the meaning of what a crush was. Now that I am a woman, I know I cannot and should not go around batting my eyes at every man I find attractive. Especially, if he's in a relationship, it's disrespectful.
Well, Mother Grenade, raised and instilled into me what it means to be respectful to myself and others. Which I take very seriously. However, I cannot say the same for others ... If I found a man attractive and later learn that he is a relationship or better yet married he's no longer eye candy to me. That's just me I guess.
I know of a young woman (whose over the age of 21) who has a crush on a now married man. She has been open about it. She has had this crush on this man since her freshman year of high school. He was two grade levels ahead of her and he was taken by his now wife. A good friend of hers has warned her numerous times about how inappropriate it is to pursue interest in him because he's taken.
The mans wife heard if it and thought it was funny and a bit cute. Well, that until she found out about this young lady has secretly messaging her husband on Facebook. The wife warned the girl that she is now grown and it's no longer cute and it's time to move on because he is married. The wife even informed her husband that it's not good to entertain the young woman. It's best for everyone if he just ignore it and take it as a compliment.
Both disregarded what the wife said and continued the private messaging. Now there is a conflict in their marriage because of a crush turned secret Facebook messages. I personally do not know the details of the messages, but I do know that this is undeniably wrong.
What I'm getting to here is to show the difference between myself and that young woman. See I was a child and she is legally grown. Do you see the point that I', trying to make here? Apparently her mother did not teach her about respecting a couples relationships or better yet marriages. But we cannot place the blame totally on her because the husband is disrespecting his wife by getting his ego stroked by another woman.
Sound Off... What are your thoughts on little girls vs. grown women having on a crush on a man in a "committed" relationship or married?
2 comments:
She should just leave his ass. He know what he's doing and he's liking it I betcha. This is the kind of man that needs to be at home with his mama so he can play these games with no holdups! She needs to take a good look at her situation and make some real decisions to hit that dam door. He's playing games with her and as for the young lady, any othe time I would go and kick her ass, but by this being a married man..this needs to be taken care of at home. There's no need to even argue about this because it sounds like this has been going on for a while and I can bet he's leading her on. I bet he aint shit! I really think this young lady needes to get away and hopefully there are no children that will keep a string tied to one another for the rest of her life. Leave his funky ass and don't look back!
Wait, as for the female playing along and contantly trying to get at the wife by playing this game with the husband..I would kick her ass on site!
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